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Issue #4 - March 2004

IN THIS ISSUE
1) Upfront & Personal
2) Upfront & Personal
Briefcase Moms® Contest Winner

3) Feature Article: Remember to Play
4) Briefcase Moms® Book Update

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Upfront & Personal
I'm just back from a week of playing in the Maui sunshine, hence the delayed release of this newsletter.

What a treat--the sand, sunsets and quality family time. Maui was a great reminder to me of the importance of play. The truth is as responsible working moms we often let play fall to the bottom, or may I say -- off, our priority list.

Sometimes I ask my clients, "When was the last time you set aside time to play? When did you last have a 'laugh till your cheeks hurt, no holds barred' good time?" The first response I get is silence. After a few moments most women tell me it's been a long time since they've actually played.

It seems that playing tends to take a back seat to more "urgent" things that must be attended to, figured out or taken care of in the daily life of a career-oriented mother. This month's article will show you some simple ways to integrate more play in your day. Let me know what you think of "having dessert first," L



re Article: Remember to Play
by Lisa Martin, PCC

When you're searching for balance, it is really important to create space for play. Playing restores and reenergizes you. It makes you feel good physically. We just have to look at our children to be reminded of the magical powers of play.

Think how that used to feel...playing for the fun of it, for pure pleasure.

Play is about making a conscious decision to forget about the day-to-day pressures of life and work, and enjoy yourself for more than a minute or two, for the sole purpose of pleasure. Play is self-defined. Each of us makes distinct choices about how we play.

You may determine that quilting is play for you, while your neighbor's tastes lean towards bungee jumping. Sitting quietly beachside reading a trashy novel might appeal to you as a way to play (okay true confessions that's what I did in Maui), to take pleasure in a sunny afternoon. On the other hand, an evening of salsa dancing may excite your soul.

Rediscover how to play
For some working moms, taking time to play has been put on the backburner for so long they can't remember how to do it anymore.

Taking some time to remember and reflect on the activities you enjoyed as a child will give you clues as to what it would be like to incorporate play into your life as an adult. Then, gradually start including play time into your days. Do things that you really love to do, and try new activities, too. You may even join in for some fun with your kids! Playing will add a whole new dimension to your life.

Have your dessert first
What is it about this notion that we must save the best for last? Shifting out of routines and shaking it up a little can go along way to putting a smile on your face. Sometimes, it just makes sense to put play before work. We are conditioned to think that we must get all our work done before we can give ourselves permission to have a good time.

But the unfortunate truth is "everything else" is never done in the busy lives of working mothers. There's no law that says we have to wait until we've earned the right to play. Set aside some time to play regardless of whether or not the chores are done.

Check Your Balance
Let's take a look at your play. Grab a piece of paper and a yellow and a blue highlighter. We are going to do some coloring. Write a blow-by-blow description of how you filled up the last typical day you had off work. Start with when you woke up and finish with when you fell asleep.

Now, highlight the time spent doing chores with yellow highlighter, and the hours spent in purposeful play time in blue. This exercise will show you in living color if there's enough “down time” in your life.

If there is not enough blue in your picture ask yourself what you could be doing differently to add more play to your life.

Having time to play and making time for fun takes more than thinking about it. It takes a commitment to doing it. What's one playful thing you can do this week?

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About Lisa Martin

Lisa Martin, PCC, is the author of the acclaimed Briefcase Moms: 10 Proven Practices to Balance Working Mothers' Lives. She lives what she writes and talks about. Mother of a six year-old son, a certified executive coach with 20 years of corporate and entrepreneurial experience, and the founder and president of Briefcase Moms®, she is all too familiar with the tug-of-war and challenges of work-life balance. Lisa has helped thousands of career-oriented women and men define, establish and maintain work-life success via her proprietary learning systems - 90 Days to a Balanced Life and Briefcase Parent Solutions™.



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Check it Out
Briefcase Moms® Contest Winner Announced

September Weir is the lucky winner of one spot in our Briefcase Moms® Program: 90 Days to a Balanced Life.

She won:

Congratulations September. There are still a couple of spots open for the program beginning April 13, 2004. For more information send me an email or go to www.briefcasemoms.com.

Briefcase Moms® Book Update

Be one of the first to take a look at the cover of my book.

What do you think?... send me an email

Read the Introduction- "How to Have Your Cake and Eat It, Too. click here.

The Balance Zone

Inspirational Quote

"But I want first of all—in fact, as an end to these other desires—to be at peace with myself. I want a singleness of eye, a purity of intention, a central core to my life that will enable me to carry out these obligations and activities as well as I can. I want, in fact—to borrow from the language of the saints— to live “in grace” as much of the time as possible. I am not using this term in a strictly theological sense. By grace I mean an inner harmony, essentially spiritual, which can be translated into outward harmony. I am seeking perhaps what Socrates asked for in the prayer from the Phaedrus when he said, “May the outward and inward man be at one.”
- Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea

Appearances

Check out the March edition of Chatelaine magazine. Read the article "How to Extend Your Weekend" in my media room.
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