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Issue #3 - February 2004  IN THIS ISSUE 1) Upfront & Personal 2) e Moms® Contest Ends Soon 3) Feature Article: Keep the Fires Burning 4) Briefcase Moms® Book Update
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Upfront & Personal
I've had my head down this month finishing off the final details of my book. I am so excited to report it is in production as we speak. Writing this book has been a very long labor and like childbirth (this book is "my baby") I am grateful it is over and thrilled with the result. To be one of the first to learn what I have named this "baby" find out in the Briefcase Moms® Book Update. Another Valentine's Day has come and gone and may have left you thinking of all things related to love. For working mothers in intimate relationships, it can be really easy to let romance and intimacy fall to the bottom of your list. You may not be doing this intentionally, but it can happen nevertheless. If you are looking for romance or wanting to rekindle intimacy read on to learn a few helpful tidbits to get the flames burning and keep the heat long after next Valentine's Day has come to pass. If you currently are not in a romantic relationship (whether by choice or circumstance), I believe this article will still be good food for thought and a great primer for extending the passion found in new relationships, particularly the tip "Remember me time." L
It's a familiar scenario that finds its way into jokes and television sit-coms. Nurturing love, intimacy and romance can often drop to the bottom of the list for working parents. It is easy to understand how this happens. Leaving your love life to the last may not intentional—it may just be the result of a jam-packed existence. In a working parent's world there is always some event, commitment or task that you or your partner feel you must attend to before taking time for your romantic relationship. Keeping the fires burning in your relationship calls for courage. Though this may, at first, seem like an odd statement to make, I draw attention to it because you have risked your love life by introducing new people into the family mix. It's easier to revel in the unquestioning need your children have for you than risk re-establishing your relationship with your partner on new terms. Regenerating passion, deepening intimacy and growing together in the ever-changing dynamic of working parenthood is not necessarily easy but it can be done. Communicate lovingly Speak your truth…tactfully. Studies show the number one deterrent to intimacy is lack of communication. The foundation of a satisfying intimate relationship is in knowing and understanding each other's desires and dreams. It is better to speak your truth honestly and gracefully, though you may feel like you're risking rejection, than to harbor anger and/or resentment towards your partner.
Create space for intimacy Make space in your schedule for intimacy. I know it doesn't sound very romantic or spontaneous. But if you are like most North American working women today, if you don't "pencil in" some romance time, you might find it just doesn't happen. You'll find that when a "date night" is in your calendar, you start to look forward to it and that can become a turn-on. And scheduling time to connect with your partner at a deeper level than "what's for dinner" and "who's picking up the kids?" will boost your intimacy quotient. Remember "me time" Before there is "us" time, there needs to be "me" time. In other words, take an interest in your personal needs and give yourself permission to take care of you first. This is an essential building block for an intimate and giving relationship with someone else. When you are feeling valued, relaxed, healthy and worry-free, you'll have more of yourself to share with someone special. WANT TO USE THIS ARTICLE IN YOUR E-ZINE OR WEBSITE? You can! Just please ask our permission first by sending an e-mail to laura@briefcasemoms.com. She'll give you a short bio to include at the end of the article.
About Lisa Martin
Lisa Martin, PCC, is the author of the acclaimed Briefcase Moms: 10 Proven Practices to Balance Working Mothers' Lives. She lives what she writes and talks about. Mother of a six year-old son, a certified executive coach with 20 years of corporate and entrepreneurial experience, and the founder and president of Briefcase Moms®, she is all too familiar with the tug-of-war and challenges of work-life balance. Lisa has helped thousands of career-oriented women and men define, establish and maintain work-life success via her proprietary learning systems - 90 Days to a Balanced Life and Briefcase Parent Solutions™.
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